SYSTEMIC & TRAUMA-INFORMED FAMILY THERAPY
02 · ADULT FAMILIES
When being together still often feels “like it used to,” even though you’re all adults.
Family is where we first learn how belonging works. And what place we hold within it.
We grow up, change, and find our own paths. Yet when we come together, roles, expectations, and loyalties that mattered at an earlier time in our lives can continue to shape how we relate to one another today.
01 · WHAT FOR
You share a
history.
How you meet
each other
within it today
is yours to shape.
Systemic family therapy has an image problem.
It’s often associated with families where one person has become “the problem,” or where conflicts have become difficult to navigate.
For me, it can be a space where different perspectives, needs, and boundaries can exist side by side.
There doesn’t need to be one shared truth. Perhaps, at first, just more room to meet each other without losing sight of yourselves in the process.
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02 · FAMILY IN THEN MODE
Sometimes all it takes is a sentence, a look, or a silence, and you’re instantly back in familiar reactions. You explain yourselves, become irritated, are especially nice, or withdraw.
Maybe there are topics you’ve learned to avoid. Setting a boundary can quickly feel like ingratitude. Expectations linger in the room without ever having been spoken aloud.
Siblings find themselves slipping back into old positions. Between parents and their adult children, closeness and independence don’t always fit together easily. Sometimes distance has long since become easier than being together.
You may already be aware of much of this. You know your roles and can reliably predict what will happen. That knowledge alone doesn’t change how you experience each other.
You’re no longer the same people you once were. Yet together, it can sometimes still feel that way.
03 · WHAT HOLDS YOU BACK
Thinking about your own family differently than you’re used to can feel as though you’re questioning more than just what has become difficult.
· My parents did the best they could · Those are stories from the past · Maybe I’m just too sensitive · Am I even allowed to see it this way · Other families have much bigger problems · What good would that do · It’s not going to change anyway · My siblings see it completely differently · I don’t want to blame anyone · Do I really have to tell a stranger about this · What if my family finds out · Maybe I’m just expecting too much · I don’t want to speak badly about my family · And what am I supposed to do there on my own if the others won’t come ·
04 · WORKING TOGETHER
In person in Stade.
Online everywhere.
I set aside two hours for each family session.
Our work together extends beyond the time we spend in our sessions. What we discuss and explore together needs space for integration.
You can come together or on your own if you want to explore your family relationship for yourself first.
45 min · €115
75 min · €185
75 min · €185
120 min · €315
On request
For two or more people, more intensive formats ranging from half a day to a full weekend are also available.
05 · DURATION
Not knowing is one of my guiding principles. So my answer to the question of how long it will take is,
“I don’t know.” Unsatisfying. I know.
I meet you with an open mind, ready to explore together what brings you here, what becomes important as our work unfolds, and what you need.
Sometimes, three sessions are enough to find clarity around a specific question. For example, if you’re adult siblings facing a decision together and want to explore how you’d like to approach it.
Sometimes, our work begins with the whole family and later focuses on just two family members.
Perhaps you come because old conflicts keep resurfacing between you, and you’re unsure how to relate to each other right now. After five sessions together, you might take a break for weeks or even months before returning.
Or perhaps your circumstances make regular family sessions difficult, and you’d prefer to set aside two consecutive days for each other right from the start.
You don’t need to commit to a longer process from the outset. We shape the process together, and as we go along, you decide what you need at each stage and how long you’d like to continue working with me.
06 · BEGINNING
Your first step:
Let’s create a
sense of direction together.
“Pausing in the Fog”: In the Starting Point Conversation, we take time to look more closely at what brings you here, sort through the most important questions, and begin to map out what matters to you. This can help create a clearer sense of which next steps might make sense for you. At the same time, we get to know each other and develop a sense of whether we can imagine continuing to work together.
I work bilingually in German and English, online and in my space in Stade. Weekends, too.
ZUKUNFTSMOMENT is less than an hour’s drive from Hamburg’s Elbe suburbs (Blankenese, Othmarschen, Nienstedten, Rissen) and western Hamburg (Altona, Bahrenfeld, Eidelstedt).
From southern Hamburg, the Harburg district, Lüneburg, and Bremen, the drive takes about 75 to 90 minutes.
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